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At some point, we all get angry…
Whether you’re pissed that the foods you love are now off limits and people stop calling you to go out, or you just throw in the towel disgusted from trying so hard to be gluten-free and eat whatever everyone else is… there’s your anger showing.
Aside from getting several angry emails a week from people new to the gluten-free lifestyle and Gluten Free School community venting their own personal frustrations, I even get occasional angry unsubscribers to my newsletter list who write me a brief explanation of their departure which goes something like “you’re just too damn upbeat for my tastes and at this point, I’m angry and can’t handle trying to be happy about being gluten-free. But thanks for valuable services you offer and I’ll be back when I’m ready.”
At first I was really taken back by those angry emails and moreso with the unsubscribes, but I’ve come to realize from cruising around the web that the undertones of anger seem to be getting more apparent. Perhaps it’s because there are more of us who can’t eat gluten and thus a bigger crowd may equal a louder voice. But maybe a larger sign of the times since everyone just seems angrier these days…
Now I’m not trying to dismiss anyone’s frustrations, stress and anger that they carry with them for whatever reason (and yes I know the reasons personally and have heard them many times over from clients, emails, blogs, etc.). Even the Gluten Dude offers an anonymous ranting section on his blog which is both much needed and also heart-felt. I appreciate the time taken by the readers who’ve crafted their frustrations into a clear message of “Hey, I deserve to be treated fairly too, so get with the f#$%ing program and give me some respect!”
So in honor of helping you all understand a bit more about me, where I’ve been and what I do in my own free time outside Gluten Free School, here’s my ‘rant’… the situations and things that get me fired up. Though on some level I would love to air them all the time, it’s not what I want for the basis of my mission at Gluten Free School. But to let you know that I’m not perfect and get pissed, here goes a list of what makes me angry:
- Every food company now producing sub-par nutritionless gluten-free crap and telling GF people it’s good for them
- People assume that the gluten-free diet is perfect… um… no, it’s not. In fact, many people are eating a very unhealthy gluten-free diet which was no better and might actually be worse than their former gluten-filled diet. (Check out more on why this is HERE.)
- Gluten-free organizations being so loaded down by advertising and sponsorship dollars from crap-peddling food companies that they see it as a ‘conflict of interest’ to actual promote healthful information
- Gluten-free food bloggers that argue with me that only posting GF desserts on their site doesn’t actually send a message that eating dessert all the time is ok (even though their social media also makes it look like their eating GF cupcakes all day)
- Medical professionals (especially those who deal with folks like us) assuming that because I didn’t go to medical school, my message and that of others like me out there are irrelevant. Oh and that somehow I’m trying to do their job. For the record, I know my scope of practice and do refer people to various doctors, nutritionists and dietitians- so chill out. We all serve a purpose here!
- That celebrities feel their ridiculous musings about the wonders of weight loss thanks to a gluten-free diet on Facebook and Twitter count for anything. (Stop listening to this crap!)
- That news outlets still write absolutely STUPID articles trying to put more doubt into the doubters’ minds that we’re all just making this s%!& up.
- People who apologize for making gluten-free food for guests in their gluten-free home. (Stop apologizing! It’s your home and it’s your wonderful food. Give yourself and your meal some justice and be proud of the food that you put on your table.)
- Spouses and kids who give the gluten-free person in the household a hard time. To them I say – stop being so damn selfish and give your family member a break! Eating gluten-free isn’t THAT bad, nor a death sentence or the end of your dietary life as you know it. Eat how you want outside of the home and be supportive and cooperative at the dinner table. At the least, it’s good karma to really love and support those living under the same roof.
- Company reps who tell you their products are gluten-free even though they’ve no clue what the heck gluten is and if their product contains gluten. To them I say – please don’t argue with us because consumers might be better informed than you are as you may never have encountered this question before. Do you want it on your head if someone gets sick from your mindless answer? Didn’t think so.
I used to get angry at all the stupid comments I’d get from people like “you must not eat anything” or “how’s that Atkin’s diet going for you” or how “this problem” was “all in my head”. I would sometimes get snippy with uneducated waitstaff who didn’t seem to care about serving me with any amount of compassion since my order seemed to complicate everything. I’ve been told by friends and family while eating out to ‘stop being so difficult’ even though I was trying to make the right dining choice by merely asking questions.
And on some level, I refuse to believe that my food sensitivities will get the best of me and keep on expanding. I refuse it at the core of who I am and keep on trying different things to see what I can do to remedy my personal situation not in hopes of eating whatever I want, whenever I want it… but just to be less reactive, less sick, and at the end of it all, having more peace in my life.
So anger for me has turned into a clarifying force that drives me to do what I do here at Gluten Free School as well as caring for myself. I had to find a healthy way to channel it and turn it into something more than just making me explode all the time. I’m grateful for the Gluten Dude and the space he provides for people to vent, but I also encourage those who’ve written in to make sure that you’re not venting just for venting sake.
Because here’s my concern… what happens if you don’t productively deal with the anger you’ve got?
Well — depression, alienation, more anger, fear, despair, loneliness, and a bunch more adjectives properly describe your state of being may come to permanently take up residence in your life. Anger’s got to be dealt with. Though it can push people into action and get the ball rolling, it can also make you sick. And making yourself even more sick is not good! In those instances of being in an unrelenting state of anger and it’s many manifestations, I’d definitely suggest getting some help. There are certainly licensed mental health professionals that help people struggling with the transition to find clarity, action, and courage to do whatever they need to do in order to care for themselves.
So in this instance of ‘ranting’, what pisses you off about being gluten-free?
And what have you done about it?
The social settings are hard. I agree with a lot of your rants but as always I try to put everything into a positive context. Not sure how much will change but as always, I’m just thankful for options because 17 years ago we had nothing. 🙂
Thank you for writing this. It seems that I stay angry and a bit stressed because of my Celiac Disease. So many people just don’t get that I want to eat totally healthy. Because I bought into all of the gluten free mixes and would often cheat if there wasn’t something available, now people don’t understand that my health has gotten to a point that I can not longer do that even if I wanted to. They complain that I’m sick all the time, but then they complain about me fixing a healthy dinner of meat and veggies. Get’s really discouraging.
I get pissed off that all the food containing eateries in a 25 mile radius have so few GF options it is pathetic-I would love having for instance Subway offering 1 or 2 GF roll options so I could partake in eating “normally” like I used to………and the local pizzeria-even 1 darn option so I could GO INTO THE DARN RESTAURANT…………….or some GF muffins or bagels or donuts at the convenient stores.I did hear that Dunkin Donuts is bringing a GF packaged line with those options beginning Jan. 2014-I am ecstatic about this.
Thank you for this. For the most part, I am not angry. I am excited when I try a new recipe and it’s delicious, and I make sure to brag about it whenever I get the chance. Frankly, I have a bit of a superiority complex, believing that I’ve come to a point in my life where I’m as educated as I can be about my food choices, and I know that I’m doing what’s right for my body and my family.
That being said, what really gets to me is eating out. If it isn’t well-intentioned but overbearing relatives or friends trying to make choices for me (“We have to find you something to eat; we don’t want you to starve!”), it’s condescending servers (“Are we eating gluten-free? Do you actually have Celiac disease or is it just a preference?” — should that really matter, ultimately?). I really wish I could just scream at people, “I’m not making YOU eat this way, so why are you so freaking worried about it?!?”
But, like you said, that’s not productive. So I keep telling myself that the world (at least the one I live in) is very accepting of vegetarians and vegans, and almost 100% of the time, those diets are entirely by choice. So eventually, we GFers will be more widely accepted in the world, and the things that make me angry will hopefully cease to be.
Thanks for the article, and thanks for your site! My sister, Anne Dowd, directed me here, and I’m enjoying the wealth of information you’ve shared.
That our government continues to allow big ag and big pharma to control our food supply and our “professional” doctors. When my endocrinologist can say to my face that nutrition has nothing to do with my thyroid issues, it’s obvious he is not in touch with reality. And, why didn’t my endocrinologists over the past 22 years tell me about gluten or test me for it. It has been proven to be one of the antagonists of hashimotos thyroiditis, an auto-immune disease. Why is it big pharma is allowed to hide, disguise or just ignore research that is conducted so they can sell their drugs? And, there’s another big one – some of the drugs keep us sick. I don’t normally rant much, but since getting your newsletter, Dr. Mercola’s emails, Dr. Mark Hyman’s emails and the Hypothyroidism Revolution’s emails, oh and don’t forget Dr. Perlmutter’s, it just makes me really angry that all of this information is just really beginning to be published. Dang!
I like this part:
“Medical professionals (especially those who deal with folks like us) assuming that because I didn’t go to medical school, my message and that of others like me out there are irrelevant. Oh and that somehow I’m trying to do their job. For the record, I know my scope of practice and do refer people to various doctors, nutritionists and dietitians- so chill out. We all serve a purpose here!”
Which is true because the so-called doctors these days AREN’T doing their job. I’ve heard that courses on nutrition are non-existent in the so-called medical syllabus. That’s why you have to do THEIR job for them. Kudos to you! I was diagnosed with acid reflux and what did the doc do? Write a prescription of meds for me more or less to take for the rest of my life instead of explaining to me the hows and whys. Since going gluten-free and free from a bunch of other crap, I’ve been meds-free as well!
I like this part:
“Medical professionals (especially those who deal with folks like us) assuming that because I didn’t go to medical school, my message and that of others like me out there are irrelevant. Oh and that somehow I’m trying to do their job. For the record, I know my scope of practice and do refer people to various doctors, nutritionists and dietitians- so chill out. We all serve a purpose here!”
Which is true because the so-called doctors these days AREN’T doing their job. I’ve heard that courses on nutrition are non-existent in the so-called medical syllabus. That’s why you have to do THEIR job for them. Kudos to you! That’s what irks me most – that we’re not some middle-aged white male prancing around in a white coat so we’re not taken seriously.
I was diagnosed with acid reflux and what did the doc do? Write a prescription of meds for me more or less to take for the rest of my life instead of explaining to me the hows and whys. Since going gluten-free and free from a bunch of other crap, I’ve been meds-free as well!